When I was first starting out trying to make it as a clothing designer, I went through a rough spot that really had me questioning what I was doing. In order to save money in a city with extremely high rent, I gave up my apartment and started couch surfing. It’s hard to go from couch to couch with a big dog, so I had to take my best friend to live with my parents in Oregon for a while. I was going through a very toxic, dramatic break-up. I was also going through my savings way quicker than anticipated. Homeless, no dog, break-up and no money. Basically, my life was a country song.
One afternoon I got notice that Joan Rivers was in town giving a lecture. Being someone who I really admired and respected, I decided to give myself a little pick-me-up and splurge on a ticket to see her. If you’ve ever heard her talk or seen her documentary, you know she didn’t have it easy. She had to work hard and overcome major obstacles before coming close to her successes. What she had achieved is so inspiring.
To hear her story was just what I needed. I was so grateful that I could hear her words when I needed them most. I had to let her know how much she touched my life. During the Q&A I raised my hand. I was the last one picked. Instead of asking her a question, I shared with her how much she influenced me and how she pretty much she saved me.
A small dialogue got started. Joan ended our conversation with 3 bits of advice.
- Never give up. Hold on to your dream and let that guide you to your success.
- Never be above anything. If you need money, do whatever it takes to get it, even if it’s scrubbing toilets. Get the money so you feel better about yourself.
- (After looking me up and down and seeing that I was in jeans, t-shirt and cowboy boots) Wear your clothes out. Be seen in YOUR work. You just never know who you’ll run into.
I took those words to heart, and it has made a difference. Watch the clip to find out more.
Thank you, Joan Rivers. You give the best advice. I miss you. XOXOX